There is a serious issue with the words "TRY" and "But"

Imagine yourself sitting on a desk or wherever you are and put your cell phone a bit far away from you. Now I would tell you to try to pick up the cell phone. Hey listen!! I did not tell you to pick up the cell phone, I just mentioned that TRY to pick up the cell phone.

You must have realized by now that actually you could try to pick up the cell phone by sitting at your desks the whole day and still not pick it up. Try is a state of mind which takes you to the world of inactivity and self doubt. The unconscious mind does not actually understand the word TRY. It is imperative that you either do something or you do not do something. If you would have observed successful people you would have realized that to succeed either you can do something or not do something, and you can really cannot achieve anything by trying to do something. The moment you move to the TRY zone, your mind is filled with self doubt and thereby your conscious mind will struggle to achieve the goals which you may have set for yourself. Though the above philosophy does counter the famous quote "Try Try again till you succeed" and I appreciate all the other quotes which pushes us to TRY. In the given context though I feel it is important we start doing and stop trying.Start avoiding using TRY in your actions and see the wonder.

BUT is a word which actually I term it as a WALL CREATOR. It is very common to use BUT in our daily conversations and it is more so often when there is a disagreement. The word is also used extensively while giving feedback which are not so positive. We promptly mention the good part first and then we proceed with a BUT and we mention the negatives. The word BUT creates a wall between the two phrases and thus it negates all that is said before the word BUT and only emphasizes the phrase which is said after. In a negotiation or a disagreement when you say that " I agree to your viewpoint but..." the person who is listening to you get a clear message that you never agreed and thus the rapport breaks down. Instead of BUT you can start using a conjunction which I term as BUILD BRIDGES and the magic word is a simple AND. The same example above can be rephrased as "I agree to your viewpoint about the current issue and I was also considering that this ...." or may be "I appreciate your efforts on the job and I would also like you consider the following ....". As you can see, in these examples you are not completely negating the individual's views but also convincing him/her to appreciate your views too. It would be difficult initially and with practice you can be an expert. Build rapport, have great communications and have great success.

Build yourself to "handle" difficult periods of your life

In the perspective of Life, Change is the only constant. It is inevitable that there would be positive and negative events in life as that is the nature of life. If one would delve a bit deeper and understand even our heart beats in ups and downs and in case the heartbeat becomes a straight line then medically the person is no more alive. It is a known fact that in life difficult periods are bound to appear but it is for us to understand that these difficult periods are actually the outer crusts for change that must take place for the greater good of one’s life.

If negative trends occur, it is more important how we handle them than whether we try to eliminate them totally from our life. It is natural that people panic during these situations, believing that his or her life is coming unraveled but if one can believe in oneself and the have believe in the higher mind then the same person instead will “handle” the trend and in the end, this negative trend will have produced positive benefits.

It is easy to think positively about one’s life when in a positive trend and it is more important to continue to think positively when there are negative trends. One should realize that to yield to negativity will create further negativity and delay the change for the greater good that is taking place. Therefore, whenever there seems to be a negative or difficult trend in your life, this is the time to test your spiritual power.

The first step is not to allow your thinking to become negative about yourself and life – no matter what! You must keep your thoughts positive by realizing that you are going through a transitional period, which appears, on the surface to be negative or destructive. The only thing that is being destroyed is the “old” in your life, to clear the way for even greater good in your life. One would realize sooner or later this period would transition into something bigger and better.

In the midst of a difficult or negative trend in your life, take more time than ever to program your mind with positive thought patterns. Along with keeping your surface thinking positive, you should be programming your subconscious mind daily with thoughts that will cause the difficult trend to pass more quickly, resulting in greater benefits in the future.
You should also take time to enter into deep meditation each day to maintain peace, and for inner renewal and regeneration through contact with your innermost spiritual nature.

Your own self analysis to "handle" negative trends:

Self analysis can help to stimulate insight and intuition from one’s sub-conscious mind, in bringing realization of the causes behind a negative trend and direction how to bring about a positive new trend in life as a result. Ask the following question of yourself.

• What in my thinking has brought about the present trend?

• What in my thinking can be changed to bring about a positive new trend?

• What at this time needs to be eliminated from my life and what needs to be added to it?

• What in my life no longer serves me as it once did? A job, a relationship, an avocation, a life-style … what?

• What is my Inner Self trying to tell me about making positive new changes in my life?

Live Life!! Live for the moment!!Choose to live better than ever!!