There is a serious issue with the words "TRY" and "But"

Imagine yourself sitting on a desk or wherever you are and put your cell phone a bit far away from you. Now I would tell you to try to pick up the cell phone. Hey listen!! I did not tell you to pick up the cell phone, I just mentioned that TRY to pick up the cell phone.

You must have realized by now that actually you could try to pick up the cell phone by sitting at your desks the whole day and still not pick it up. Try is a state of mind which takes you to the world of inactivity and self doubt. The unconscious mind does not actually understand the word TRY. It is imperative that you either do something or you do not do something. If you would have observed successful people you would have realized that to succeed either you can do something or not do something, and you can really cannot achieve anything by trying to do something. The moment you move to the TRY zone, your mind is filled with self doubt and thereby your conscious mind will struggle to achieve the goals which you may have set for yourself. Though the above philosophy does counter the famous quote "Try Try again till you succeed" and I appreciate all the other quotes which pushes us to TRY. In the given context though I feel it is important we start doing and stop trying.Start avoiding using TRY in your actions and see the wonder.

BUT is a word which actually I term it as a WALL CREATOR. It is very common to use BUT in our daily conversations and it is more so often when there is a disagreement. The word is also used extensively while giving feedback which are not so positive. We promptly mention the good part first and then we proceed with a BUT and we mention the negatives. The word BUT creates a wall between the two phrases and thus it negates all that is said before the word BUT and only emphasizes the phrase which is said after. In a negotiation or a disagreement when you say that " I agree to your viewpoint but..." the person who is listening to you get a clear message that you never agreed and thus the rapport breaks down. Instead of BUT you can start using a conjunction which I term as BUILD BRIDGES and the magic word is a simple AND. The same example above can be rephrased as "I agree to your viewpoint about the current issue and I was also considering that this ...." or may be "I appreciate your efforts on the job and I would also like you consider the following ....". As you can see, in these examples you are not completely negating the individual's views but also convincing him/her to appreciate your views too. It would be difficult initially and with practice you can be an expert. Build rapport, have great communications and have great success.